Experts will tell you that there is an optimal window of time when it comes to getting pregnant without needing expensive fertility treatments. Sadly – this window of time comes and goes before you know it. So if you really want to be a mom someday, would it be better to listen to your biological clock, so that you have nature on your side?
Most women dream of having a baby someday, but today you find that more and more women are putting off that decision for later…sometimes for a little too much. You read about 40 something celebs having babies every single day…and you think to yourself “Oh, I will have time to have kids later on. Right now, let’s concentrate on my career and build on my savings so that I can afford a baby when the time is right”. Sounds about right? However, this mindset that you can put away having a baby until you are more settled in life might sound practical…and in all earnest, it really is, because babies are expensive…but what about your biological clock? Is time really of essence for those who do want to have kids someday?
Can’t Stop The Clock….
If you are a woman reading this, who wants to have a baby someday but thinks, she will always have ‘time for it later’, consider this advice seriously. If you want to make a baby naturally, without involving a lot of painful and expensive (and sadly sometimes very ineffective too) fertility treatments, you have only a decade to do this in. And as your luck would have, this time window that is your definite baby-making-decade or the prime time to conceive naturally for a healthy baby is between the age of 25 and 35. See the problem here? The age between 25 and 35 is also your prime ‘Career making decade’, which is why more and more women have been pushing having a baby until their late 30’s.
The age between 25 and 35 is when your physical ability to conceive is high. If you have unprotected sex when ovulating until your late 20s, you have about 30% chances of getting pregnant. Now by the time you are 30 years old, the chances reduce to 20%, and by the time you have crossed the 35 year age mark, the chances dip down to a slim 15%. See now why time is of essence here?
There is a scientific reason why your body is fertile between the ages of 25 and 35. And it has everything to do with the egg quality and quantity. As you age, eggs naturally die off and slim down your chances of conceiving.
Here are a few figures that will put the whole idea in to some perspective for you:
- You are born with about 2 million eggs
- By the age 25, you have about 1 million eggs left
- By the time you are 30, you have just 50,000 eggs left
- By your 40th birthday, you have only 10,000 eggs left
But here is another catch – your body will ovulate the healthiest of eggs first. So the younger you are, the more viable are the eggs your ovaries release every cycle. This is why women between the ages of 25 and 35 have an abundance of healthy eggs, and are also more likely to ovulate every month without having a lot of hormonal problems.
Could Waiting be Too Risky?
It doesn’t sound fair, does it? When at 35, you finally managed to create for yourself a stable life with a fulfilling career and some money stashed away to grow your family, your fertility plummets. In fact, 20% of first time moms are now post 35 years of age, so don’t assume you cannot be a mom if you wait till 35 to start a family. Thousands of women get pregnant in their late 30’s too…but it is better to have a realistic picture of what you are getting in to.
Not only are the number of eggs left in your body fewer, the chances of having pregnancy related complications grow as well. As you age, stress and lifestyle changes bring about hormonal changes and almost 40% of women above 35 years of age do not have regular menstrual cycles, which are crucial for being able to conceive naturally. Also, conditions like PCOS and Fibroids that can interfere with fertility are also more common in women post 35 years of age.
What is worse is that with age, your chances of delivering a baby with Down ’s syndrome increases as well, while you are also at a higher risk for gestational diabetes and high blood pressure.
The Truth About Fertility Treatments
Should you merely put away the decision of having a baby before 35 on the hope that fertility treatments will come to your aid? Maybe…maybe not. Fertility treatments can work, but they don’t work as easily as you imagine them to.
1. Fertility treatments get less effective as you grow older. IVF, which is the most popular treatment where viable eggs are fertilized with sperm outside of the body, tends to get lesser and lesser effective as you age. Around 35 years of age, it results in a positive conception 50% of the times, but by the time you have crossed 43 years of age, the success rate dwindles down to 8% only.
2. Fertility treatments come with many side effects, all of which are undesirable.
3. These treatments can be very expensive. So if you waited for too long to be able to save up enough money so you can give your baby a good life, chances are that you will end up spending a huge chunk of that money just to be able to get pregnant. And not all insurance policies will cover the treatments too, and the ones that do come with exceptionally high premium rates and also put a limit on the number of attempts you get, with the treatment itself giving you no guarantees that you will ever conceive normally even if you want to pay for more attempts yourself.
Put off your baby making decision for too long, and you could lose your chances of having a baby naturally without any fertility treatments. And if you think you would rather take your chances with fertility treatments than risk having a baby before your life is stable enough, make time to learn the truth about fertility treatments so that you are in a better position to make an informed decision about your future.
- Report: Fertility treatments on the rise, but infertility actually declines (hollandsentinel.com)